So distance makes the heart go fonder? It can also make you go loopy. Here's how to make a long-distance relationship lastLove is magical. But those blessed to be in it will vouch that it's also an awful lot of effort. And if you are trying to work things out with someone who's not in the same city, or worse same country, as you, it's twice and more the grind. Relationship experts tell you tips to remember when committing to someone in faraway land. Ensure there's daily communication
Speaking to someone every day is what keeps the conversation going.
And sharing details of one's routine is what keeps a relationship strong and thriving. In the era of quick Wi-Fi, email, WhatsApp, Skype and
the good old telephone, there's no excuse not to talk every single day. Think about it, if you lived in the same city or, perhaps, in the same home, wouldn't you talk that often. Keep each other informed about the finest details of the broader news, and you'll feel closer to one another, quite literally. Surprise each other
Routine is boring in a normal relationship. But in a long-distance one, it is actually a good habit to follow.
You can look forward, and have the license to think about your next conversation or visit, because you know exactly when it's going to happen.
But every now and then, spice things up, surprise each other. Land up at their door unexpectedly. It's always sweet to take something along. Spice up your love life
Sex experts, brains are our biggest sex organ. So use the distance to your advantage by stimulating each other mentally (read: therefore sexually).
Learn how to talk (and sometimes, text) dirty. Sounds cheesy, but it keeps the relationship exciting. It doesn't have to be overt -just enough to tickle each other's senses. No secrets please
It's okay if you don't have loads of experience behind you, what you should have is the courage to be honest at all times. Honesty is imperative in any relationship. It matters even more when one's in a relationship with someone from a different city, state, or country. It's also essential to be honest about your needs and expectations. If you are feeling insecure, be up front. Counsellors says expressing what makes you anxious can lead to improvements in the relationship, as well as a greater level of sensitivity from your partner. Learn to have trust
At the same time, learn how to trust your partner. If you know your partner well, and s/he are good at maintaining routines, issues of trust will not act up in the overly imaginative mind. Trust also means giving one another the benefit of doubt and loads of space. If your guy says something, trust him. Just because your imagination can run wild, doesn't mean you should let it.
Know the level of commitment
Couples in long-distance relationships know they're taking a risk, and also know that they are making several sacrifices to be together. But if you see a real future for the two of you, the sacrifices won't make you feel resentful.
With long-distance relationships, you need to have a detailed, intimate conversation often. Being sure of the level of commitment -you guys must be on the same page -will help to avoid unnecessary jealousy and trivial fights that follow. The amount of time couples are able to maintain a long-distance relationship depends on how they nurture it. If your intuition says s/he is `the one', be prepared to put in loads of hard work.
Remain social
When in a long distance love, it is important that you each have a social life in your own city and have your own circle of friends, too. Without your own world of opportunities and enjoyment, you lose your sense of security and independence. It will keep you busy and in a positive frame of mind.
Building new friendships also boosts confidence, which can enhance your relationship. Besides, there is nothing more attractive to a partner than being with someone confident.
Set aside a deadline
There needs to be hope at the end of the road, a time when you'll be in the same place, or at least the understanding that one of you will have to move at some point. So, set a deadline. If you're both in it for the long haul, these are decisions you'll want to make sooner. Don't wait until it's too late.
